Sunday, 30 October 2011

IF ONLY I COULD TURN BACK TIME



The clocks went back last night and half the population took advantage to spend an extra hour in bed whilst the other half got up early. Did anyone take advantage of the extra hour of rolled back time to do something completely different?


So many clients going through a divorce are prone from time to time to express regret about their marriage: “If only; if I’d known then what I know now; I wouldn’t make the same mistake again; if only I could turn the clock back.”
Of course we all make mistakes and bad things invariably happen, regardless. Isn’t that what life’s about?


But how many of us really would make different choices or could behave differently if we turned back time and were living our lives again?

8 comments:

Tulsa Divorce Lawyers said...

Hindsight is 20/20 and yes we all make mistakes and we all have regrets...that's what life's about.

Divorce Blogger said...

It's perfectly normal to feel remorse and regret following a divorce, but most people do heal and go on to live happier, more rewarding lives.

Some, unfortunately, do find it hard to forgive themselves and be burdened by their regret for far too long. It is extremely important to forgive yourself following a divorce and also remember that your former spouse almost certainly contributed to the end of your marriage – though not harbouring any resentment towards them – too.

Anyway, on a much lighter note, I enjoyed my extra hour in bed.

Robert Mues said...

As a divorce lawyer in Dayton, Ohio
practicing 30+ years, I hear these sentiments all the time. Divorce transition take time...
Excellent post!

Tulsa Divorce Attorneys said...

I don't think I would make different choices if given the opportunity to turn back time - if you think about it, we all fantasize about how 'perfect' our lives could have been if only we had done such and such.... But those fantasies are embellished and are far from reality.

If we were given the opportunity to go back, most of us would probably make the exact same decisions because as much as we all love to fantasize, we love feeling comfortable even more.

theexfactor said...

Tempting though it is to want to turn back time and make different decisions, the result would be that if I'd done things differently I wouldn't have my three wonderful children. So I'd rather live with the intermittent and complex regrets and nostalgia that divorce throws up, than without my fabulous three...

bieber said...

this article is really touching.if i could turn back the hands of time,i would get married.my ex-woman was ready for marriage and i could not propose.i feel i would never meet her type again.She lives in my memory now

Private investigator Austin Tx said...

A good friend gave me an analogy that I keep in mind today. Marriage is like putting rocks in a rock polisher that knocks off the edges of the rocks and makes them smooth. Certainly,there is a bit of trauma associated with this process but in the end a finished product is produced. It also takes time and perseverance to make a marriage work but hopefully the end result will be something beautiful that the couple can look back on and admire.

carol said...

I believe everything happens in our lives for a reason and if a relationship doesn't last forever, it's the path we are supposed to be on. I have had friend relationships that lasted a few years and some that have lasted a few decades. When those relationships don't last we don't beat ourselves up so why do we react differently with a marriage relationship? Because we think it is supposed to last forever? Nothing does. I take each relationship and each event in my life as a learning experience and know that it is part of the path to becoming who I am meant to be.

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