Tuesday, 6 July 2010

MEN BEING FORCED INTO MARRIAGE


At first glance a headline like “More Men Being Forced into Marriage” might make you think that Alpha females, afraid of being left on the shelf, are now asserting their desire to wed on somewhat less committed and easygoing boyfriends. The truth is far scarier. According to the Forced Marriage Unit its helpline was used by 65% more men in 2009 than 2008 and it wants to raise awareness of the issue because naively we assume that the victims are always women. Apparently men too are vulnerable and indeed 14% of cases reported last year related to males perhaps to secure a visa, or to preserve a family’s reputation. 80 cases have already been reported to the unit this year and some involve the sexuality of the man in question, with his family forcing marriage to hide the fact that he is homosexual. The Unit believes that it is harder for men to seek assistance than women and is urging professionals who work with young people to be vigilant. This is not a situation where divorce is the answer. Instead our law now permits protection orders to be obtained to prevent a marriage taking place or to protect a person when it has and the Unit offers confidential advice.

9 comments:

Nicola@simpledivorce said...

It is so sad that people still get forced into marriage or anything else really by their family.

It just goes to show that the reasons behind having children is not always to be a supportive parent, with your child's happiness at the fore but a control freak with your own agenda coming first and making your children fit the mold whatever it takes.

Christopher Jennings said...

Marriage is very sacred. It's a union of two hearts but not money.. Hehe.

d.blake862 said...

It's important to get married for the right reasons! Doing it to hide something isn't the reason to get married, it makes divorce more stressful and awkward. If you get married for the wrong reasons you'll find yourself seeking advice for divorce very early into the marriage...

Tulsa Divorce Attorneys said...

I would be harder for men to seek assistance because of the gender stereotypes of society. No one should be forced to marry against their own will.

Alice said...

Marriage is gods gift.That makes two person one

Oklahoma Divorce said...

No one should be forced to marry if they don't want to. The family members who force these men to marry need to think less about public appearances and more about letting the men live emotionally healthy lives.

Oklahoma City Divorce Attorney said...

A forced marriage sounds like something that would happen pre-20th century. I like Alice'a comment btw.

Alice said...

Don't do that dear

Los Angeles Mediators said...

Forcing men to marry is wrong. If he don't want than let he enjoy single life. By putting own decision on him can have bad effect on life of both person on him and on his future partner